{"id":5148,"date":"2024-04-18T12:38:37","date_gmt":"2024-04-18T11:38:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/?p=5148"},"modified":"2025-08-05T14:37:00","modified_gmt":"2025-08-05T12:37:00","slug":"angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201e&quot;I&#039;m not good enough!&quot; \u2013 the fear of not meeting the expectations of others."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Authors: <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/#ueber_uns\">Julia Bl\u00f6mer &amp; Dr. Steffen Bl\u00f6mer<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Published on<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-post-date\"><time datetime=\"2024-04-18T12:38:37+02:00\">April 18, 2024<\/time><\/div>\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Updated on<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-post-date__modified-date wp-block-post-date\"><time datetime=\"2025-08-05T14:37:00+02:00\">August 5, 2025<\/time><\/div>\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Short version:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The fear of failure and the feeling of &quot;not being enough&quot; are often rooted in your <strong>childhood<\/strong>. They influence your self-confidence and your actions. These experiences also shape your expectations of relationships and partners.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Society rewards conformity and achievement, which leads to pressure that causes anxiety, avoidance, and withdrawal. The expectation that others will make us happy gives them power over our lives.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Negative beliefs<\/strong> They unconsciously influence you and prevent you from experiencing joy and ease in everyday life. Self-acceptance and letting go of fear of rejection are crucial.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Individual <strong>Life motives<\/strong> Inner motivation drives each person differently. We must respect the lifestyles of others, but our actions should not be constantly criticized by others.&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Your <strong>Character traits<\/strong> They influence your behavior. People possess opposing poles. A strong tendency towards one pole leads to extreme behavior in similar situations (e.g., achievement orientation vs. interest orientation \/ modesty vs. positive self-presentation).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Reduce the pressure to be perfect by setting more realistic expectations for yourself and others. Perfectionism, often stemming from a fear of failure, leads to dissatisfaction. Letting go of excessive expectations relieves stress and strengthens relationships.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>We can find out what&#039;s important to us by asking simple questions:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>What standards do I set in my work, and do I need them for my success?<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>How does my pursuit of perfection affect daily decisions and my well-being?<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>How much time and energy do I invest in perfection, and could I use it more effectively?<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>Have I ever asked the people around me if it&#039;s really necessary to be perfect?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Cultivate self-love and inner strength:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Putting thoughts and feelings on paper<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Setting boundaries and learning to say &quot;no&quot;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Communication instead of unspoken expectations<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Feedback from the surrounding environment or from neutral persons<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color:#d1dbda\">If you need support, please feel free to sign up for a <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas.youcanbook.me\">free initial consultation<\/a> on. Or just look <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/shop\/\">in our shop<\/a>, to see if there&#039;s something suitable for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Visualisierung der Auswirkungen externer Erwartungen auf das pers\u00f6nliche Gl\u00fcck und die Bedeutung von Selbstakzeptanz f\u00fcr die innere Zufriedenheit. Darstellung von Strategien zur \u00dcberwindung negativer Glaubenss\u00e4tze und F\u00f6rderung der Selbstliebe durch bewusste Kommunikation und das Setzen von Grenzen.\" class=\"wp-image-5149\" srcset=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen-1320x1320.jpg 1320w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/angst-nicht-gut-genug-erwartungen.jpg 1890w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><strong>\u201e&quot;I&#039;m not good enough!&quot; \u2013 the fear of not meeting the expectations of others.<\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-white-color has-text-color has-background has-link-color wp-element-button\" style=\"background-color:#0c605a\">Reading time: 11 minutes<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-ideabox-toc ib-block-toc\" data-anchors='h2,h3' data-include='.blog_inhalt' data-collapsable='true' ><div class=\"ib-toc-container ib-toc-list-style-numbers ib-toc-hierarchical ib-toc-expanded\"><div class=\"ib-toc-header\"><div class=\"ib-toc-header-title\">Table of contents<\/div><div class=\"ib-toc-header-right\"><span class=\"ib-toc-icon-collapse\"><span class=\"dashicon dashicons dashicons-minus\"><\/span><\/span><span class=\"ib-toc-icon-expand\"><span class=\"dashicon dashicons dashicons-plus\"><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><div class=\"ib-toc-separator\" style=\"height:2px\"><\/div><div class=\"ib-toc-body\"><ol class=\"ib-toc-anchors\"><\/ol><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-einleitung\">Introduction<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>You don&#039;t know how to deal with other people&#039;s expectations?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>Do you know that feeling of wanting to please everyone and forgetting yourself in the process?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>Do you wish you could prioritize your needs without feeling guilty?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>Are you living your own life, or are you still fulfilling the expectations of those around you?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>When was the last time you did something nice for yourself, without regard for the expectations of others?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>Is your greatest wish to finally stop trying to please everyone?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But what if we told you there is a way out of this? <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/unzufrieden-mit-sich-selbst\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">emotional prison of dissatisfaction<\/a> to break out?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The secret lies in finding a balance between fulfilling expectations and maintaining one&#039;s own well-being. It is a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.journey-of-life.de\/die-erwartungen-anderer-erfuellen-7-schritte-zur-mentalen-freiheit\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">balancing act<\/a>, which can be learned and which we will decipher together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Self-liberation in small steps<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To bridge the gap between <a href=\"https:\/\/www.jasmin-schuemann.de\/aus-erwartungen-ausbrechen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">External expectations<\/a> To master self-care, you must learn to put yourself first. This doesn&#039;t mean neglecting others, but rather finding a healthy balance \u2013 without... <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/schuldgefuehle-loswerden-tipps\/\">Feelings of guilt<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>\u201e&quot;You won&#039;t find your self-worth in the opinions of others.&quot;\u201c<\/em><\/strong> - Unknown<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&#039;s explore together how you can transform this pressure into freedom. How you can learn to prioritize while remaining sensitive to the needs of those around you. It&#039;s an exciting path that requires courage, but ultimately leads to true joy in life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-unter-der-oberflache-die-verborgenen-wurzeln-der-erwartungen\"><strong>Beneath the surface \u2013 the hidden roots of expectations<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Why do we feel so much pressure to always perform? If we look deeper, we discover the roots in societal pressure and the power of social media.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Images of perfect lives flood our screens daily, making our achievements seem insignificant. These constant comparisons are poison for our self-image. We live in constant fear of not meeting expectations and not achieving our goals. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kas.de\/de\/web\/die-politische-meinung\/blog\/detail\/-\/content\/schlecht-fuers-gehirn\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\u201e&quot;social reward&quot;\u201c<\/a> to obtain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The attempt to please everyone \u2013 what are the underlying reasons for this?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-die-angst-vor-dem-nicht-genug\"><strong>The fear of &quot;not enough&quot;\u201e<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Fear of failure is a powerful driving force behind our constant urge to shine. This fear is deeply rooted within us and erodes our self-confidence. We are then often <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/unsicherheit-selbstzweifel-ueberwinden\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">insecure and have self-doubt<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Often it all starts in childhood: One negative experience and the belief is already formed. <strong><em>\u201e&quot;I&#039;m not good enough!&quot;\u201c<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp; a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This phrase accompanies us and colors our decisions and actions. Our parents and relatives shape us, and these influences even affect our later expectations of a partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>An important aspect is <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/urvertrauen-staerke-urmisstrauen-zweifel\/\">Fundamental mistrust<\/a>. Basic trust develops in the first years of life and forms the foundation for psychological stability and emotional well-being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The formative experiences of this time leave a lasting mark. Without maternal love, mistrust and low self-esteem can develop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-warum-dieser-drang-es-allen-recht-zu-machen\"><strong>Why this urge to please everyone?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The solution to this question is challenging and multifaceted. Our society values conformity and <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/was-du-von-michael-jordan-zum-thema-erfolg-lernen-kannst\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Success<\/a>, which may seem positive on the surface. But this constant pressure to function and <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/endlich-gluecklich-entdecke-wie-vvew-dir-zu-innerer-zufriedenheit-und-freude-verhilft\/\">the comparison with others<\/a>, pulls us into a vicious cycle of fear, avoidance and withdrawal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>My partner has to make me happy.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We constantly seek external validation and recognition, instead <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kristinagness.com\/erwartungen-an-den-partner\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">to give them to ourselves<\/a>. No one can fulfill our happiness or make us perfect. That is solely our own responsibility. If we rely on others to be happy, we automatically give them power over our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-den-glaubenssatzen-auf-der-spur\"><strong>Tracing the belief systems<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Why am I not good enough? Is that even true?<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Who claims that?<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Do I really have to constantly meet other people&#039;s expectations?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Life isn&#039;t about conforming and fulfilling the expectations of others. It&#039;s about authenticity and forging your own path. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/negative-glaubenssaetze-auflosen\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Negative beliefs<\/a> They exert an invisible influence on us. They prevent us from experiencing joy and ease in everyday life. A <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/mutter-tochter-beziehung-als-erwachsene\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">difficult mother-daughter relationship<\/a> can create belief systems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Self-acceptance and the understanding that perfectionism and the fear of rejection only hold us back are first steps. Learning to see our worth independently of external validation opens up new paths to greater fulfillment. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/muede-und-ausgebrannt\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Energy and zest for life<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>It takes time to... <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/selbstzweifel-inneren-kritiker-umarmen\/\">to calm the inner critic<\/a> and to acknowledge our abilities. It is important to question our critical thinking and recognize that we achieve more than we admit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-reflexionsfragen-auf-dem-weg-zu-dir-selbst\"><strong>Reflection questions: On the path to yourself<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some questions to help you delve deeper into the topic and identify possible solutions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Self-reflection in the pursuit of recognition:<\/strong> <em>What thoughts do I have when I try to please others?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Identify triggers:<\/strong> <em>What situations or people awaken in me the desire to, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.carolinsue.com\/erwartungen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Expectations<\/a> to fulfill?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Understanding feelings:<\/strong> <em>How do I feel when I think I have disappointed someone?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Weigh the consequences:<\/strong> <em>What&#039;s the worst that could happen if I don&#039;t meet expectations one time? Can I live with those consequences?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Origin of expectations:<\/strong> <em>Have I adopted certain expectations from my parents or other caregivers? Are there recurring patterns?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Own definition of values:<\/strong> <em>How do I measure my worth? Do I base it on the approval of others?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Setting boundaries:<\/strong> <em>Are there people you find it difficult to say &quot;no&quot; to? And why?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Expectations of me: <\/strong><em>In which areas do I set too high standards for myself? In which areas can I approach things more realistically and calmly in the future?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"No more guilt: Kathrin&#039;s path to inner balance and happiness \ud83c\udf1f #shorts\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/FAgHxT_lhbc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-uberstulpen-von-meinungen-und-innerer-motivation\">\u201e&quot;Imposing&quot; opinions and inner motivation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Many believe that what benefits them will also benefit others. Whether it&#039;s sports, social engagement, structure, security, etc. \u2013 everyone has different expressions of their life motives. It&#039;s not necessary for everyone to have the same thing. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/stopp-ratschlaege-du-musst-nichts\/\">Advice to follow blindly<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/lebensmotive-leidenschaft-finden\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Life motives<\/a> They provide information about what is important to you and what <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/wer-bin-ich-was-treibt-mich-an-und-motiviert-mich-dauerhaft-%f0%9f%92%96\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">what drives you<\/a>. Just because your father loves exercise doesn&#039;t mean you have to. And just because your mother never compromises her principles doesn&#039;t mean you have to either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Freedom vs. Security<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Max<\/strong> He decides to quit his permanent job. He will work as a freelancer so he can work from anywhere in the world.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Alexandra <\/strong>She has worked for the same company for ten years because she appreciates the security that the position offers her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Community vs. Independence<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Jonas<\/strong> volunteers in a local environmental group to implement environmental projects with like-minded people.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Leonie<\/strong> has founded a start-up to independently realize her vision of sustainable fashion.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Tradition vs. Innovation<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Sonja<\/strong> She is a passionate vinyl record collector and loves their analog sound quality and nostalgic feel. She enjoys browsing record stores and finding classics.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Markus<\/strong> is an enthusiastic podcast producer who uses modern technologies to create and distribute his content. He appreciates how digital platforms democratize knowledge and culture.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>All behavior is not inherently &quot;good&quot; or &quot;bad,&quot; but rather an expression of life&#039;s motivations. We must understand that everyone has their own. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/was-motiviert-mich-lebe-dein-leben-nicht-das-der-anderen\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">own inner motivation<\/a> has. And respect it if someone decides differently than we would. That way we can <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/4-saeulen-der-empathie\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Interact more empathetically<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The opinions of others do not automatically constitute our &quot;obligation&quot; to behave in a certain way. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/leben-statt-funktionieren-tipps\/\">You don&#039;t have to please everyone.<\/a>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-verhalten-verstehen\"><strong>Understanding behavior<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Your <a href=\"https:\/\/linc.de\/lpp-persoenlichkeitstest-bigfive\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Character traits<\/a> They determine how you behave. Often we aren&#039;t aware of this. Every person has &quot;opposing&quot; poles within them. The stronger we tend towards one side of these facets, the more extreme our behavior will be in similar situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Big Five: Film 1 - The Five-Factor Model of Personality\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/GdDrlU9zZjI?list=PL1UYUvUYuYRQUh69yG19zH1FO_lZdNody\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Performance orientation vs. interest orientation<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>1a) Performance orientation: Example Anna<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Anna<\/strong>, A successful marketing manager at an advertising agency, she often works overtime. She works weekends to gain recognition and exceed expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This brings her promotions and bonuses, but costs her her health, social contacts and personal interests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Their example shows that an excessive focus on performance and the fear of failure can have negative consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>1b) Interest orientation: Example Lisa<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Lisa<\/strong> She is a graphic designer at a young company and was drawn to this job because of her passion for creativity. Her love for her work motivates her more than the pursuit of specific achievements.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, in a competitive environment, she finds it difficult to assert herself. She takes criticism personally and fears being seen as inadequate because her work does not meet the strict performance standards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A strong passion in a performance-oriented world can lead to self-doubt when personal preferences and professional expectations clash.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Stress perception vs. stress resilience<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>2a) Experiencing stress: Example Lena<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Lena<\/strong>, a dedicated project manager, lives under high pressure, which she cannot shake off even in her free time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of relaxing, she constantly tries to be productive. She wants to live up to the expectations of others, whether in sports, social activities, or reading. Her choice of activities is based more on pleasing others than on her own enjoyment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This inability to switch off leads to constant stress \u2013 she is overwhelmed and exhausted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>2b) Stress resistance: Example Sarah<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Sarah<\/strong>, a software developer with high stress resistance, confidently handles professional challenges, but paradoxically finds no relaxation in her free time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her inability to recognize the need for breaks leads her to fill her free time with additional projects. Genuine periods of rest are rare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Despite her resilience to stress, she shows signs of fatigue in the long run. She doesn&#039;t allow her body and mind any rest in order to exceed her own expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Humility vs. Positive Self-Presentation<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>3a) Modesty: Example Katharina<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Katharina<\/strong> She is a modest woman who puts her needs and desires aside for those of her partner. She rarely suggests activities of her own or talks about her wishes. She believes that true modesty lies in complete self-restraint.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Katharina&#039;s constant reticence makes it difficult for her partner to understand her and recognize her needs. This leads, in the long run, to both partners becoming frustrated and... <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/raus-aus-der-spirale-der-einsamkeit\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">lonely<\/a> are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>3b) Positive self-presentation: Example Melanie<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Melanie<\/strong> She places great importance on portraying their relationship on social media in order to always present a perfect image. This fixation manifests itself in a loss of <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/7-empfehlungen_fuer_zwei\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">high-quality time together<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Melanie&#039;s portrayal puts her partner under pressure to constantly meet expectations on social media. This focus on public image prevents an authentic partnership.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-reduziere-den-druck-perfekt-zu-sein-lebe-leichter\">Reduce the pressure to be perfect: Live lighter!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Our expectations of our environment, our relationships, and ourselves can sometimes overwhelm us. We want everything to be perfect and are dissatisfied when things don&#039;t go as planned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-erwartungen-neu-justieren\"><strong>Readjusting expectations<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>We often put ourselves and our partners or fellow human beings under unnecessary pressure. By making our expectations more realistic, we relieve ourselves and strengthen our relationships. It&#039;s not about wanting less, but about letting go of expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perfectionism is often linked to fear of failure. Many people strive for perfection because they fear that mistakes or unachieved goals could reflect negatively on them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The pursuit of perfection makes us unhappy. Once we realize this, we can <a href=\"https:\/\/kreativ-akademie.com\/perfektionismus-ablegen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">we are taking countermeasures<\/a>. We learn what counts: less perfect results, more real moments!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-selbstreflexion-als-schlussel\"><strong>Self-reflection as a key<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>By asking simple questions, we discover what&#039;s important to us. We differentiate between &quot;must&quot; and &quot;can,&quot; between pressure and joy. In this way, we focus on what fulfills us and let go of expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>What standards do I set in my work, and do I need them for my success?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>How do I perceive perfection in my relationship? Does that prevent me from enjoying the relationship?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>How does my pursuit of perfection affect daily decisions and my well-being?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>What happens if I make a mistake \u2013 is it as bad as I fear?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>How much time and energy do I invest in perfection, and could I use it more effectively?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>In which areas of life would a &quot;good enough&quot; approach be helpful?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>How do I react to the mistakes of others or when they don&#039;t meet my standards of perfection?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>What positive aspects of work, relationships, and everyday life am I overlooking due to my focus on perfection?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>How has my view of perfectionism changed over time?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>Were there moments when &quot;being perfect&quot; helped me? And how can I use these insights in a healthier way from now on?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>Have I ever asked the people around me if it&#039;s really necessary to be perfect?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These reflection questions will help you examine your perfectionism from different perspectives and reveal ways to free yourself from the expectations placed on yourself and others. They will help you let go of your perfectionism in certain situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5831\" srcset=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben-1320x1320.jpg 1320w, https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/glaubenssaetze-loesen-freude-erleben.jpg 1890w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-selbstliebe-und-innere-starke-endlich-freude-erleben\"><strong>Self-love and inner strength \u2013 finally experiencing joy<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Constantly trying to live up to other people&#039;s expectations can be exhausting. It&#039;s time to let go of that pressure and focus more on yourself. Here are some steps you can take. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/ja-zu-dir-11-punkte-plan-um-selbstliebe-zu-lernen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-love<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gluecksdetektiv.de\/selbstfuersorge-lernen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Self-care<\/a> You cultivate and develop your inner strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-journaling-dialog-mit-dir\"><strong>Journaling: Dialogue with yourself<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>A <a href=\"https:\/\/lauraseiler.com\/7-journaling-tipps-die-dir-dabei-helfen-dein-leben-zu-veraendern\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">to keep a diary<\/a>, This helps you bring order to your thoughts and feelings. Write down three things you are grateful for each day, and also your three successes of the day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additional questions, if you wish:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>What new things did I learn about myself today?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>What situation tested my patience and how did I deal with it?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Which person have I met who have positively influenced me, and why?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>At what moment of the day did I feel most alive?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Is there anything I could have done better today? How would I approach it in the future?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>In which area do I currently feel insecure, and how can I work on feeling more confident?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-innere-starke-und-grenzen-setzen\"><strong>Inner strength and setting boundaries<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Knowing and respecting your personal boundaries makes you stronger. Learn to do so without guilt. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/macht-des-nein-sagens\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\u201eto say &quot;no&quot;<\/a>. Understand what is good for you and do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This boosts your self-confidence and helps you let go of others&#039; expectations. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/war-das-schon-alles-im-leben\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">healthy selfishness<\/a> is essential.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-kommunikation-statt-erwartungen\"><strong>Communication instead of expectations<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Speak openly about your needs and desires. <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/die-geheimnisse-der-kommunikation\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Clear communication<\/a> It prevents misunderstandings and reduces unnecessary expectations. This way, you actively shape your own fulfilling life and enjoy more joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/glueck-zu-zweit-kommunikation\/\">Tell your partner<\/a>, that you want to be hugged more often.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Inform your colleague that you will no longer be taking over his tasks in the future.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can tell your mother that you are no longer a small child and make your own decisions.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-feedback-einholen\"><strong>Gather feedback<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Get feedback from people you trust. Or use &quot;neutral perspectives&quot; from external experts. New perspectives provide valuable insights and show that the fear of not being good enough is often unfounded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By taking these steps, you build a deeper relationship with yourself. Allow yourself to feel and experience joy, independent of external expectations. <a href=\"https:\/\/lebensfreude-academy.de\/selbstliebe-7-tipps-dich-selbst-lieben-zu-lernen\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\">The path to self-love<\/a> It requires patience, but it leads to true happiness and contentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-fazit\"><strong>Conclusion<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>On our journey of discovery through self-doubt and the fear of not being good enough, we have learned a lot. We now know ways to free ourselves from the expectations of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We have seen how valuable it is to come to terms with ourselves, to set clear boundaries, and to clearly communicate our needs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now it&#039;s time to bravely follow your own path. You no longer let others define you. Despite <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/ueberwinde-rueckschlaege-resilienz-lernen\/\">Don&#039;t give up after setbacks.<\/a>. Everyone has the right to their own happiness and to define success for themselves. Perfection is not the goal. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bettinahielscher.de\/authentisch-sein\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">to be authentic<\/a> is it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><em>What first step will you take today to break free from expectations? How will you find your joy in life?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>\u201e&quot;When you let go, you have two hands free to grasp something new.&quot;\u201c<\/em><\/strong> - Unknown<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:21px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>If you need support, we are here for you. At <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/coaching-fuer-frauen-online-oder-lokal\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">online coaching<\/a> Let&#039;s find ways together to meet your needs <a href=\"https:\/\/fidertas-awareness.com\/en\/raus-aus-der-blase-rein-in-dein-leben\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">to discover inner strength<\/a> and letting go of expectations of yourself and others. As certified life coaches, we can use our experience to help you resolve deep-seated emotional blocks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your Julia &amp; your Steffen<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Disclaimer: This text is for informational purposes only. If you are experiencing trauma, please seek advice from an expert (e.g., a therapist, counselor, or other professional). <em>Therapists<\/em>).<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>All images and 3D elements used in this post are from Envato Elements and are used under a valid license.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Keywords: <\/strong>Meeting expectations, fear of not meeting expectations, experiencing joy, dealing with the expectations of others, disappointing expectations, dissolving limiting beliefs, the belief &quot;I am not good enough&quot;, developing inner strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-esab-accordion accordion-cfd1b22c\" data-mode=\"global\"><div class=\"esab__container\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-esab-accordion-child\"><div class=\"esab__head\" role=\"button\" aria-expanded=\"false\"><div class=\"esab__heading_txt\"><p class=\"esab__heading_tag\"><strong>Sources \/ Links<\/strong> (without Wikipedia)<\/p><\/div><div class=\"esab__icon\"><div class=\"esab__collapse\"> <svg version=\"1.2\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" width=\"24\" height=\"24\"><path fill-rule=\"evenodd\" d=\"m3.5 20.5c-4.7-4.7-4.7-12.3 0-17 4.7-4.7 12.3-4.7 17 0 4.6 4.7 4.6 12.3 0 17-4.7 4.6-12.3 4.6-17 0zm0.9-0.9c4.2 4.2 11 4.2 15.2 0 4.2-4.2 4.2-11 0-15.2-4.2-4.3-11-4.3-15.2 0-4.3 4.2-4.3 11 0 15.2z\"><\/path><path d=\"m11.4 15.9v-3.3h-3.3c-0.3 0-0.6-0.3-0.6-0.6 0-0.4 0.3-0.6 0.6-0.6h3.3v-3.3c0-0.3 0.3-0.6 0.6-0.6 0.3 0 0.6 0.3 0.6 0.6v3.3h3.3c0.3 0 0.6 0.2 0.6 0.6q0 0.2-0.2 0.4-0.2 0.2-0.4 0.2h-3.3v3.3q0 0.2-0.2 0.4-0.2 0.2-0.4 0.2c-0.4 0-0.6-0.3-0.6-0.6z\"><\/path><\/svg> <\/div><div class=\"esab__expand\"> <svg version=\"1.2\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" width=\"24\" height=\"24\"><path fill-rule=\"evenodd\" d=\"m12 24c-6.6 0-12-5.4-12-12 0-6.6 5.4-12 12-12 6.6 0 12 5.4 12 12 0 6.6-5.4 12-12 12zm10.6-12c0-5.9-4.7-10.6-10.6-10.6-5.9 0-10.6 4.7-10.6 10.6 0 5.9 4.7 10.6 10.6 10.6 5.9 0 10.6-4.7 10.6-10.6z\"><\/path><path d=\"m5.6 11.3h12.8v1.4h-12.8z\"><\/path><\/svg> <\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"esab__body\">\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\">Agness, K. (2021, October 4). <em>Expectations of your partner and how they sabotage your happiness<\/em>. Finally loved! https:\/\/www.kristinagnes.com\/erwartungen-an-den-partner\/<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\">Diane. (2022, February 22). <em>Meeting the expectations of others \u2013 7 steps to mental freedom<\/em>. Journey of Life. https:\/\/www.journey-of-life.de\/die-erhalten-anderer-erfuellen-7-stiege-zur-mentalen-freiheit\/<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\">Engelfried, L. (2021, February 16). <em>Let go of perfectionism for happy and relaxed creative time in everyday life: Here&#039;s how!<\/em> Creative Academy. https:\/\/kreativ-akademie.com\/perfektionismus-ablegen\/<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\">Funk, S. (2022, November 14). <em>Self-love: 7 tips to learn to love yourself<\/em>. Joy of Life Academy. https:\/\/lebensfreude-academy.de\/selbstliebe-7-tipps-dich-selbst-lieben-zu-lernen\/<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\">Hielscher, B. 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