Authors: Julia Blömer & Dr. Steffen Blömer
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Introduction
Relationships can be wonderful, but also complicated. Building a healthy relationship based on safety, trust, and mutual respect, can be challenging.
It requires honesty, openness, and a willingness to compromise. One of the difficulties we encounter in relationships is the mistakes we often make – be it through a lack of communication, insufficient appreciation, or unhealthy conflict resolution.
In this blog, we will focus on seven common relationship mistakes and discuss how to avoid them in order to have a happy, fulfilling, and long-lasting partnership based on growth and love.
7 common mistakes
Mistake 1: Expecting that the other person will make you happy
A common mistake in relationships is expecting our partner to make us happy. It's important to understand that each person is responsible for their own happiness, and that it's neither fair nor realistic to shift that responsibility onto another person.
Instead, we should learn to make ourselves happy, and our partner can support us in this by loving, supporting, and accepting us.
Mistake 2: You blame each other for your feelings
In relationships, it's common to blame our partner for our own feelings. However, it's important to recognize that we ourselves are solely responsible for our emotions.
When we feel sad or upset, we should learn to comfort and calm ourselves instead of automatically expecting our partner to do it for us.
Mistake 3: Losing your individuality
In a relationship, there's a risk of losing our individuality and focusing too much on the partnership. It's crucial to constantly remember who we are as individuals and that our relationship is just one part of our lives.
We should preserve our own interests, hobbies and friends and continuously develop ourselves in order to grow and improve.
Knowledge of your Life motives helps you with this, balance to find it in love.
Mistake 4: Hiding perceived weaknesses
In relationships, we often make the mistake of hiding perceived weaknesses. However, it's important to recognize that we all have weaknesses. Rather, accepting ourselves and learning to transform these weaknesses into strengths should be part of our growth process.
It is crucial that we feel safe sharing our weaknesses with our partner in order to best support our process of growth and learning.
Mistake 5: You bring your old relationship into the new relationship
Sometimes we carry the burdens of an old relationship into our new one. It's important to let go of that past and allow our new relationship to stand on its own two feet.
We should be aware that every person is unique and that every relationship is different.
Mistake 6: Dreary everyday life instead of great emotions
In many cases, we tend to fall into comfortable routines in our relationships instead of fostering deep feelings. This carries the risk of intimacy in our relationships suffering.
To counteract this, it's important to actively work on deepening the connection and building a deeper emotional bond. This can be achieved by consciously creating time for each other, pursuing shared interests, and giving each other space to openly discuss our feelings and needs.
Mistake 7: Developing controlling behaviors
A common mistake in relationships is developing controlling behavior. This behavior often stems from fears or insecurities. However, it's important to remember that everyone has a right to autonomy and freedom.
By trusting our partner, we create an atmosphere of respect and appreciation. By letting go of the need for control, we can build a healthy and fulfilling relationship based on trust and mutual respect.
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Conclusion
Having a happy relationship involves taking responsibility for ourselves, preserving our individuality, and supporting and encouraging each other.
It is important to remember that it is okay to have weaknesses and that we can grow together by accepting and learning from them. they work.
A happy and loving partnership isn't just about avoiding problems, but also about tackling them together and finding solutions. Conflicts will be inevitable, but it's our ability to approach them as a team and meet the challenges with trust and respect that makes it possible. to master together.
Let us therefore cultivate a close relationship in which we support, respect, and love one another. A relationship based on trust, openness, and appreciative communication that fosters growth.
Your Julia & your Steffen
Disclaimer: This text is for informational purposes only. If you are experiencing trauma, please seek advice from an expert (e.g., a therapist, counselor, or other professional). Therapists).
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