Out of functioning, into living. I don't have to do anything!

Author: Julia Blömer

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Short version:

• Women often play roles that others expect and forget what makes them happy. A survey regarding stress levels shows that 82% of women often feel stressed. feel very tired.

• To function means paying attention to what other people expect of you, instead of what you need. Your Thoughts and feelings are neglected..

• This adaptation leads to a feeling of External control and inner turmoil. You try to maintain a facade of strength while your well-being suffers.

• An unsuitable job or a misguided work environment can exacerbate feelings of being lost. Professional motivation is achievable by... explore your personality.

• There are also advantages to "functioning", such as a strong work ethic, personal growth and recognition.

• Saying no It's difficult for us women because we were raised differently. You have to learn to set boundaries without feeling guilty.

8 tips for a fulfilling life:

• Take breaks
• Digital Detox
• Rediscover hobbies
• Experience micro-adventures
• Embrace creative chaos
• Social fasting
• „"Do without" your reflection
• Write your heartfelt CV

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Introduction

It's one of those days again. Outside, life is bustling, with constant noise everywhere. The streets are filled with people hurrying along. Cars are honking, and somewhere in the distance, a street musician is playing.

And me? I long for peace, a place of silence, while the world around me simply refuses to stand still. Sitting in my room, I try to escape the noise that penetrates the walls.

We live in a world where technology never sleeps and social media captivates us around the clock. It's challenging for us to resist the pull of constant performance. Everywhere we look, we're bombarded with messages telling us we need to be more productive, more efficient, more successful.

„"I have to function!"“

This statement unconsciously governs our actions. It creeps into our thoughts as we try to meet the demands of everyday life. But what if we're just going through the motions?

When you realize:

„"There is no joy left, I'm just functioning in everyday life."“

What if we are so focused on the external world that we... small moments of joy overlook?

A "no" is a "yes" to yourself.

„Being able to say "no" without being overwhelmed by guilt is not just an art, but a necessity. It's about standing up to societal expectations that try to convince us we always have to please. We have to overcome the fear that failing to meet the expectations of others.

But how do we achieve this? How do we return to a life in which we no longer just function, but truly live?

It begins with the realization that „I don't have to please everyone.“ It is a guiding principle for a self-determined life. It is the first step to step out of the shadow of mere functioning and into the light of life.

„"Don't waste time, because that's the stuff life is made of."“ – Benjamin Franklin

In this blog post, we learn to free ourselves from the idea that we constantly have to function.

It's time to stand up against the flood of expectations. To shape your life according to your wishes and desires. Because ultimately: „"I don't have to do anything!"“ except perhaps to find myself, to Joy of life and to feel lightness.

Does it work? A straitjacket for women

We have to play many roles that others expect of us, forgetting who we are and what makes us happy.

„"I live like a robot and just function."“ This sentence perfectly captures the dilemma: a facade that holds up while we break inside, and the ongoing stress leads to physical ailments.

In one Opinion poll Regarding frequent feelings of stress, 82 of the women surveyed reported regularly suffering from "exhaustion and burnout." 64 complained of "nervousness and irritability," while 59 had "sleep disturbances.".

What does it mean to function?

We then focus more on external expectations than on our own needs. Personal feelings and thoughts are pushed aside. The diverse demands of everyday life, work, and social obligations take their toll. to do justice.

We feel controlled by others, instead of actively shaping and enjoying our lives. Outwardly, we maintain a facade that suggests strength and independence, but inwardly we are crumbling.

This feeling of breaking inside shows us that our self-image and well-being are slowly suffering. We constantly try to please everyone and be perfect. If we break out of this vicious cycle, then usually the following occurs. inner critics emerge.

Why do I only want to be alone anymore?

The desire to be alone arises from profound exhaustion. It is a cry for respite., a time of silence. If we constantly live outwards, we lose touch with our true needs and goals.

We learn as girls that others always come first. This pattern leads us to neglect ourselves. We forget what it means to be at peace with ourselves and content.

An important aspect is lack of basic trust. Basic trust develops in the first years of life and forms the foundation for psychological stability and emotional well-being. The formative experiences of this time leave a lasting impression.

The wrong environment is paralyzing.

A unsuitable job or company environment, Someone who doesn't share our values reinforces the feeling of being lost. It forces us into a role that isn't ours.

„"I have to get out of here"“ It is a silent thought that grows ever louder.

Professional motivation is realistically achievable. By... Life motives By exploring your personality traits, you can find a fulfilling job.

Life motives that can motivate you professionally:

• independence
• Values and meaning
• Security
• growth
• lifestyle
• Relationship
• Performance
• creativity
• Influence

Simply knowing about your inner motivations is not enough. It is crucial that you learn to follow them and assert yourself.

No one in your immediate circle can tell you exactly which activities and professions suit you. To figure this out, you need to analyze your life motives and character traits.

At FIDERTAS we support you, with scientific methods a deeper Understanding your personality to achieve your goals. Furthermore, we will accompany you on your journey to creating a self-determined and joyful life. As a certified life coach, I can use my experience to help you resolve deep-seated emotional blocks.

Are there any advantages to it functioning?

One of the main advantages is the development of a strong work ethic and discipline. Those who function well complete tasks efficiently – a plus in any job.

This pursuit also fosters personal growth. You learn new things and push yourself to your limits in order to meet expectations.

Another advantage is the recognition and appreciation from colleagues and superiors. This strengthens your self-confidence at work.

But beware: The balance between work and leisure must be carefully maintained to prevent it from tipping. An imbalance can lead to serious consequences such as overwork and... Burnout.

Why is it so difficult for women to say "no"?

Deeply ingrained psychological and social barriers, shaped by upbringing and societal norms. From childhood onward, we learn: You have to please, you have to function.

A difficult mother-daughter relationship This could also be one of the reasons. A constant Your mother's overprotectiveness It severely restricts you in life, even as an adult.

But it is time to break this cycle. „I don't have to please everyone.„ These words are your key to freedom.

Getting rid of negative beliefs

To free yourself from the pressure of always having to please, you must Identifying negative beliefs and that Let go of a guilty conscience:

Replace „"I have to function in everyday life"“ through „"I hardly have to do anything in life."“.

Allow yourself to set and defend boundaries. „"I am fighting back"“ and „"I let go"“ These are your new mantras. They are powerful tools that help you actively shape and direct your life according to your own desires.

Saying no without guilt

But how do you say it? No, without a guilty conscience How to get what you want? First, recognize that setting boundaries is healthy. It even improves your relationships.

Be aware of your needs and communicate them clearly – openly, honestly, and respectfully. This way, you can say "no" without guilt and fulfill your needs. Overcoming uncertainty.

You can learn more about the topic of "setting boundaries" in our blog article "„The power of saying no„.

Live more, function less! 8 tips for a fulfilling life

Take breaks

Take your time Time to rest. A relaxing bath, a walk in the woods, or an evening without plans will calm your mind and recharge your energy.

Digital Detox

Turn off your phone and take a break from social media. Digital detox helps you, To find inner peace and focus on what's essential. No more constant notifications and distractions.

Rediscover hobbies

Remember the activities that bring you joy. Painting, reading, crafting – revive old passions. They give you a break from everyday life and foster your creativity.

Experience micro-adventures

Embrace small adventures. A spontaneous bike ride or a day in an unfamiliar city can breathe new life into your routine. They'll show you that life has more to offer than just routine.

Embrace creative chaos

Do what you want without thinking about the outcome. Dance, sing, paint, or write freely. Such creative expression liberates you and connects you with your inner voice.

Social fasting

Consciously withdraw from social obligations. This time alone allows you to reflect deeply, regenerate, and grow.

Do without your reflection

Try not to look in the mirror for a day. This exercise will teach you, to place less emphasis on outward appearances and to value your inner self more.

Write your heartfelt CV

Don't focus on your professional resume. Create one that showcases your passions, dreams, and challenges. It will remind you of what truly matters to you.

These tips will help you take important steps to break free from the constant cycle of functioning. Remember:„I don't have to please everyone!“

Coloring book „You don’t always have to function – from having to to being allowed to“

Reconnect with yourself and your inner strength. Our coloring book „"You don't always have to function."“ transformative Stress in conscious rest phases. Especially for women who want to move from obligation to freedom. Each of the 50 lovingly designed motifs features a positive affirmation tied together.

About the following Amazon link You can view and order it here: 

https://www.amazon.de/gp/product/B0FRYVZZG4?ref_=dbs_m_mng_rwt_calw_tpbk_1&storeType=ebooks

My conclusion

We've looked at how to escape the constant pressure to function. Remember: digital breaks bring peace, old hobbies invigorate the mind, and small adventures add color to life.

Be creative, without striving for perfection Pay attention to yourself. Reduce your social obligations and focus less on appearances.

Have you ever said "no" without feeling guilty? What has helped you to be more yourself?

Share your experiences in the comments. Your story will surely give courage to other women.

Choose yourself

If you only did things you enjoyed today, what would your day look like? What would you do? What would you not want to experience?

„"Have the courage to use your own understanding."“ – Immanuel Kant

Life is too precious to spend it constantly in the fast lane. Make conscious choices that bring you closer to your true self. It's not necessary to please everyone. Advice to follow blindly.

Start today, not always to please others. Let's take this path of self-love explore together.

Your Julia

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Disclaimer: This text is for informational purposes only. If you are experiencing trauma, please seek advice from an expert (e.g., a therapist, counselor, or other professional). Therapists).

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